Do wives really have to submit to their husband? 
A Written compostion by The Heavenly Calling Network Study Group

What does it mean to Submit? And does that apply wives? And what about husbands?

God is a God of order.We all have our specific roles to fulfill His Will in our lives. He also has a chain of command. Husbands are accountable directly to Him, wives to their husbands, and children to their parents.Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. Eph 5:24... Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Eph 5:25... Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; Eph 5:28...  So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.  Col 3:18...  Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.  Col 3:19...  Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them. 1Ti 3:11...  Even so must their wives be grave, not slanderers, sober, faithful in all things. 1Pe 3:1... Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;

Most assuredly you have heard this, and it's that approach to the religion that distresses most. So one might ask themselves, "what if the husband commands the wife to do something that she would rather not...is it a sin if she denies him?" Or "What if she would rather not engage in his lustful husband rights, is she going to be damned, or should she just let him do to her as he pleases? Where do the rights of women come into play, are they even allowed rights by the bible?"

Those are the questions that come to mind. But they are the wrong questions. The question should be, are we only obeying one side of the coin instead of both? When you read scriptures do you see both sides of the coin? Eph 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; .... Eph 5:28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. ... Col 3:19 Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.

The truth is like a neon sign in the darkness. We are not to command our wives around like slaves. We are to love them as Christ loved the church. Does any one understand what a Tall Order that is from the Lord to husbands? Husbands are accountable to God for how husbands treat their mates. His standard is love and honor. If all our homes in this world followed this command our homes would improve dramatically. Unfortuantely alot of husbands do not take their righful place as head of the home, this leaves the poor wife to do a job herself, meant to be shared by two. Women are not second class citizens, or any less important than a man...its just a matter of different roles in Gods Service.

  The submit clause has been abused and misused so much in the past, women are naturally uneasy about it. In God's chain of command it is the husband who has to answer for the actions of his family. He is the head of the family, just as Christ is the head of the church. This should be seen in all eyes as a loving blessing God has bestowed on women for all time. It behooves husbands to be good wives. On the other side of the coin it behooves wives to be obedient and loving so that our husbands will be approved of God. Anything the wives do that is out of line, the husbands have to answer to God for. In generations, even centuries past, men have misued this to subjugate women but that isn't what God meant by it. Making the husband the head of the wife and requiring women to submit is something God did to bless women, to protect them, lighten their burden and responsibility. So wives, you should do everything in your power to build up and support your husbands so God will approve of them and their husbandry. Kicking against the traces will only cause more problems, while serving your husband with love and obedience, supporting him for God's approval will reward wives with happy loving husbands.